Are you poisoning your marriage?

To be blunt with you guys,because that's what this topic needs,if you believe that the sins of lust or masturbation or pornography are not serious, then you are holding to your own opinion. This opinion is not shared neither by Our Lord nor by His Holy Church, of which you are a member. "Everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Mt 5:28) "Among the sins gravely contrary to chastity are masturbation, fornication, pornography, and homosexual practices." The words "gravely contrary" refer to "grave matter", that which constitutes the basis of mortal sin. Surely you are not ready to risk your salvation and your marriage because, in your opinion, these things are "no big deal"?

I am trying very hard to get your attention because the good of your marriage (now or in the future) and the good of your soul are my responsibility as a man fallen to lust, delivered, victorious, and fully committed to God for my salvation.

Lust causes spiritual blindness. It "clouds the mind," as St Thomas Aquinas says. St. Thomas points out that the lustful man is like the lion, for whom every other animal in the jungle is a potential meal. The lustful man cannot appreciate beauty (exactly contrary to what he thinks), because he sees another person primarily as an object to gratify his own appetite. Lust can easily and quickly become an addiction. Like chains that bind the heart, every bit as real and devastating in their effects as alcohol and drugs. Think of it this way: if someone appeared at your door tonight and said, "I am here to destroy your marriage," would you welcome them? Of course not… But opening the door of your heart to lust is the moral equivalent of inviting a stranger into your home. How easy it is to become blind to the danger! You owe your wife more than that.

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'Don't make someone a priority when they only make you an option.'